I’ve been poring over a lot of information recently on the traps waiting to ensnare your managers and supervisors. In every study, report or book read recently I keep running across the problem of poor communication and interpersonal skills. So I thought, why not talk about some of the symptoms that your managers may be showing if they indeed have this very common management problem.
The “at risk” manager always seems to be feuding with someone in your organization. Have you met this type of supervisor very often? They’re working on personal grudges or that blasted accounting department that they just know has it in for them and them alone. I know it’s not rationale, but they seem to honestly believe someone has it out for them and they need to keep up their defenses.
The polarizing manager is also a key symptom of poor communication or interpersonal skills. Other employees either love this manager or hate them, there is no middle ground. They can have a real reputation for being authoritarian, cold, aloof, arrogant, insensitive, or the type that plays favourites.
What about the hermits? You know the type, they avoid direct communication or interaction with other employees and peers at all costs. Do you have managers who would rather deliver any type of news, both good and bad, through an email instead of face to face communications? This type of manager will go to great lengths to avoid direct contact and becomes unapproachable and perceived as less supportive or understanding.
What about the hostile manager. This symptom can be most commonly observed in relationships with co-workers that share interdependent goals and are competing for resources or time. These managers can become the targets of subtle or blatant sabotage efforts from their co-workers and will be a real morale killer.
So what can you do if some of your managers and supervisors are showing these symptoms? There is good news, there are remedies you can employ to turn things around and help them become more effective.
First, try to understand the true root cause of conflict. Does your manager have a personal or political problem with a couple of people, or are they having problems with a large group? If it only involves one or two people this is something you can nip in the bud quickly. But you’ll have to act immediately, don’t let these problems fester and begin to include more people.
If it is more serious, you may have to dig deeper into the manager’s management style and motivations. More often than not, mangers just don’t know what they don’t know. Very few managers and supervisors have the self-awareness to know if they are coming across as insensitive or aloof. It is very important for them to understand their natural management style and how it impacts others, but until they get the feedback and information necessary to develop this self-awareness improvement remains elusive.
Many studies have found that an effective manager spends up to 75 – 80 % of their day communicating with the employees they are expected to lead. Managers with poor interpersonal and communication skills cost you in many ways. They are generally not happy in their work and this tends to impact the engagement and morale of your workforce. Make no mistake about it this has a tremendous bottom line impact on your business. But by getting involved and spending some valuable resources on developing your managers, you will see tremendous returns. Don’t rely on your managers or supervisors to try and heal themselves, be on the lookout for these symptoms and then get them the help they need to be the best they can be.
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